In current psychological literature, there are no explicit theories around sexual attachment styles. There is inquiry into how attachment styles affect one’s sexuality but nothing to say what your sexual attachment style actually is.

That being said, we’re going to approach attachment styles from a sexual standpoint and help you make sense of your attachment style from a sexual point of view because sex is so important to us!

Sex is assumed to be a natural process. But for most people during their lifespan of engaging sexually, sex has come with its pleasures and pains. It is not always a pleasurable experience because for one we have never had real instruction on how to use our bodies and then we complicate things by making it more of a mind game than a bodily one. What then happens is that our body begins to store all these micro-traumas without us realizing the actual impact that it has had on us mentally and physically.

So, for the purposes of this post I will be making reference to:

1. Sexually Secure Attachment

2. Sexually Dismissive or Sexually Avoidant Attachment

3. Sexually Anxious or Sexually Preoccupied Attachment

4. Sexually Disorganised or Sexually Fearful/Avoidant Attachment

In order to develop better skills to navigate our sexuality we first need to understand what a Sexually Secure Attachment blueprint looks like. From here we have a reference point to address all the other Sexual Attachment Styles.

Do you yearn for your relationship to once again be filled with passion and desire? Do you long for the exhilarating moments of intimacy and connection that came so easily in the beginning? In long-term partnerships, desire will inevitably ebb and flow, but that doesn't mean you can't reignite the flame that once blazed so fiercely. As Alan Watts famously said, "But the attitude of faith is to let go, and become open to truth, whatever it might turn out to be." In this article, we will explore practical methods for boosting desire, promoting closeness, and forging passionate relationships, drawing inspiration from renowned thinkers such as David Deida, James Allen, and David Hawkins.

Triangulation in families, akin to the enigmatic Bermuda Triangle, involves a complex web of communication patterns that can lead to confusion, tension, and emotional wounds. In this article, we delve into the dynamics of triangulation, its impact on relationships, and practical steps to break free from this pattern. By understanding and addressing the Bermuda triangle in your family, you can pave the way for healthier and more balanced interactions.

Discover effective strategies to address and improve sexual intimacy issues in your relationship. Explore the underlying causes, practical solutions, and the significance of open communication and mutual understanding between partners.

Explore the importance of ending relationships with grace and respect in the world of dating. Discover valuable tips for preparation, effective communication, and maintaining self-respect throughout the process. Give yourself the time to grieve and grow from each dating experience.

Many of us unknowingly use escapism as a defence mechanism, avoiding true depth in our relationships. Discover the power of escaping toward your partner, facing vulnerability, and fostering depth. Ask yourself important questions about making your partner your escape and find the path to healthier, more fulfilling connections.

Safety in relationships goes beyond feeling secure; it's about embracing triggers and doing the hard work of breaking unhealthy patterns together. Learn how safety promotes emotional growth and resilience, and why ongoing conversations about safety are essential for a thriving partnership.

Uncover the secret to maintaining a constant state of arousal and deep connection with your partner. Challenge the idea that fetishistic visual triggers are the sole source of arousal. Embrace the art of eroticisation, sexual fluidity, and imagination to experience luscious intimacy beyond the confines of fluffy pyjamas

Unravel the complexities of 'daddy issues' and their influence on individuals, regardless of gender. Explore how the impact of father figures shapes our relationships, self-discovery, and emotional growth. Learn how facing these wounds can lead to transformative personal growth and more authentic connections with others.

Delve into the complex landscape of modern women in traditional relationships, shedding light on the evolving dynamics between partners. Discover how embracing conscious self-care and individual growth can strengthen the foundation of traditional relationships, fostering a space for collaboration, mutual support, and lasting love. Explore the challenges and triumphs of navigating this transformative journey together

The you that you think you are, is really not the you who you really are. Each person must decide that for themselves who this "you" really is. Wrongness is not a bad thing, it is all part of the process of being human and growing through experience. If we didn’t encounter wrongness we wouldn’t be able to expand and lean towards who we really are and who we are becoming.

One of the most transformative aspects of any relationship is the ability to nurture and respect each other's freedom. This concept goes beyond mere physical independence; it delves into emotional, psychological, and relational realms. In a healthy partnership, both individuals should feel free to express themselves, pursue their interests, and grow both individually and together.

However, achieving this balance is not without its challenges. Often, relationships can unintentionally drift into co-dependency, where partners' individual identities and freedoms become blurred. This is particularly evident when one or both partners struggle to find a voice in the relationship, leading to a dynamic where being seen and heard becomes a battle rather than a mutual understanding.

The journey towards facilitating your partner's freedom begins with a conscious effort to understand and evolve your relational style. It's about moving away from ego-driven conflicts and embracing a mature, thoughtful approach to your partnership. This process involves recognising and honouring each other's needs, desires, and boundaries.

In fostering this environment of mutual respect and freedom, you lay the foundation for a relationship that is not only fulfilling but also conducive to personal growth and healing. As you navigate through the complexities of your relationship, remember that each step taken towards understanding and respecting each other's freedom is a step towards a deeper, more meaningful connection.

Embracing Sexual Grounding for Authentic Dating

In the intricate dance of dating, bringing our most authentic selves to the table is both a challenge and a necessity. One powerful tool to enhance this authenticity is sexual grounding – a concept that goes beyond just physical attraction to encompass emotional and psychological preparation.

Sexual grounding is not just about being in touch with our sexual desires; it's about embracing our entire sexual self-image. This means shedding any guilt, shame, or negative emotions that often accompany our sexual identity. It's about understanding and accepting our sexuality as a fundamental part of who we are, influencing how we interact with the world and potential partners.

The journey towards sexual grounding starts with mindfulness, a term that has gained popularity yet often loses its depth in casual use. True mindfulness in dating involves centering our emotional state, becoming aware of our feelings at the moment, and learning to navigate the emotional waves that come with new experiences. This practice allows us to be present and genuinely connected during a date, rather than being overshadowed by performance anxiety or our inner critic.

Moreover, the practice extends to conscious masturbation – a way to connect deeply with our sexuality and create a new, empowered narrative around it. This conscious approach helps us see through the societal narratives connected to our sex and redefine them on our terms.

As we prepare for a date, sexual grounding reminds us to stay present and authentic. It’s about recognising our worth regardless of external validation, understanding that terms like rejection and judgment are mere obstacles on the path to sexual authenticity.

The word “attractive” always makes me think of classic pinups and beauty queens, but when I really enquire into the word, it holds far more essence and depth to the point where each and every individual on this planet can embrace this one word and change their lives significantly. Not only will this induce change, but lead you towards manifesting abundance in your life.

I believe that one of the goals in this life is to become a more attractive person. What this doesn’t mean, is making the word sound superficial and focus simply on looks… Essentially looks fade and we all age, whereas attractiveness transcends all superficialities and is timeless.

When we take a stand in life we unleash energy, it doesn’t really matter in what capacity we stand for but the mere act of taking this stand projects an energy into the ecosystem we are functioning in.

I often speak about ecosystems because we are always relating in a system within a system and I like to call it an ecosystem because it highlights that there is a flow among the biological community of interacting organisms in relation to their physical, emotional, psychological, spiritual, sexual and financial environment. This forms a complex network or interconnected system that needs to be understood in isolation and in relation to the ecosystem in which it finds itself.

“Success cannot be pursued; success ensues. It flows as the unintended by-product of efforts concentrated in the direction of a worthy cause”. “Sharma”

This quote from Robin Sharma is directed towards the idea of legacy illustrating that success ensues from a the effort we put into the experience. When it comes to relationships I am often confronted with couples who treat their relationship with a desperate need to get to a particular destination. Much like a check list that they have to achieve and then move onto the next experience.

This article is focused on providing you key points in understanding how to navigate your relationship. The intention is to give you effective information to make your relationship with your partner and yourself 100 times stronger. The title of this article is focused on when we get communication wrong. What this implies is that there is an inevitability that two individuals in a relationship will get some of their communication misunderstood at various points in the relationship. This is very normal, but what is not normal is needing to endure suffering both internally and externally at the hands of miscommunication.

This is a very difficult topic for a lot of people to work through because when our partner has a particular disorder, be it, OCD, depression, anxiety or any other personality disorder to name a few, it seems that the human condition makes us feel a lot of guilt and shame when we feel our needs aren't being met. During this process because we love our partner, we endure a lot of emotional turmoil that we hide away from the world because sitting with our partners struggle feels potentially superior in comparison to our struggle with lack of intimacy.

I am a man. I am a man who strives to be better every single day but am haunted by my own personal reflection that I have done wrong in the past. Like every man going through their various stages of growth there are moments when we are completely oblivious to why we act in the manner we do and we can analyse these experiences to the point where there is a psychological explanation for every single facet of our behaviour. I do not believe that this is the problem because like every man or woman there are stages of development and growth that we go through and this is essentially a process to become more conscious and aware and steering towards becoming more self-actualised individuals.

I love the beauty of linguistics. The more we master our own language the more able we become in expressing artistically our inner world for the outer world to hear, see and understand. This is a process that takes many years to master and I urge everyone to try enhance their linguistic ability even if solely for the purposes of aiding others in hearing you.