Triangulation in families, akin to the enigmatic Bermuda Triangle, involves a complex web of communication patterns that can lead to confusion, tension, and emotional wounds. In this article, we delve into the dynamics of triangulation, its impact on relationships, and practical steps to break free from this pattern. By understanding and addressing the Bermuda triangle in your family, you can pave the way for healthier and more balanced interactions.

The word “attractive” always makes me think of classic pinups and beauty queens, but when I really enquire into the word, it holds far more essence and depth to the point where each and every individual on this planet can embrace this one word and change their lives significantly. Not only will this induce change, but lead you towards manifesting abundance in your life.

I believe that one of the goals in this life is to become a more attractive person. What this doesn’t mean, is making the word sound superficial and focus simply on looks… Essentially looks fade and we all age, whereas attractiveness transcends all superficialities and is timeless.

"Only in the darkest depths of the One Mind, are we conceived. The Truth of Self, is never found in the light as light veils the truth, forming only the illusion of self"

I have always had a keen interest in philosophical teachings and particularly drawn to existential topics of discussion. I guess this is just the way my soul is hardwired and I've always enjoyed the darker topics which I think a lot of us avoid.

Erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation are two physiological dysfunctions that affect a large proportion of men all over the world. There are a number of contributing factors that can lead to these problems but the focus here is on the psychological.

It is always advisable to go and see a urologist or your doctor if you feel you are having erection problems as this is usually a red flag for another underlying condition that is being neglected. Once any medical and physiological concerns have been ruled out by a urologist, you can then begin focusing on the psychological aspects that may be hindering you during your lovemaking experiences.

When we speak about resonance and vibration our attention gets steered to law of attraction. The manner in which I speak about resonance and vibration is more in terms of kinesiology where the core of the practice is about identifying imbalances in the body’s structural, chemical and emotional energy. I am by no means a kinesiologist but my curiosity and studies within the realm of body work and energy consciousness have always left me with a lot of questions which have informed my practice. In addition the exploration of kundalini tantra has been greatly applicable to this western manner of viewing the body and for my own personal reflections.

I am a man. I am a man who strives to be better every single day but am haunted by my own personal reflection that I have done wrong in the past. Like every man going through their various stages of growth there are moments when we are completely oblivious to why we act in the manner we do and we can analyse these experiences to the point where there is a psychological explanation for every single facet of our behaviour. I do not believe that this is the problem because like every man or woman there are stages of development and growth that we go through and this is essentially a process to become more conscious and aware and steering towards becoming more self-actualised individuals.

I love the beauty of linguistics. The more we master our own language the more able we become in expressing artistically our inner world for the outer world to hear, see and understand. This is a process that takes many years to master and I urge everyone to try enhance their linguistic ability even if solely for the purposes of aiding others in hearing you.

A very interesting question was raised during one of our discussions this past week around how do we know if the amount of masturbation or sex we’re engaging in is indicative of addiction or not.

Each and every single one of us is like a living battery. A battery charged with a certain amount of power to be able to get us through the day and assist us in achieving everything we need to. The thing we fail to remember is that in order to fully charge there needs to be a more conscious balance in how we understand the flow of energy that moves through our body and how we need to cultivate this and assist it not only to flow well but to grow in magnitude.

When you go through most psychotherapy based courses you are faced with the obligation of going to a personal and professional development (PPD) group. The purpose of such a group can vary but in essence it is designed with no agenda so that people in the group can begin to face discomfort not only within themselves but also as a result of the other members of the group projecting their anxieties and judgements onto the group.

Communication breakdown is bound to happen when there is complacency within the two people involved in the relationship. We find ourselves at the beginning stages full of desire to want to connect on a deep and emotional level but we fail to remember that maintaining depth in a relationship takes time, presence, patience and a lot of love.

It is quite clear that in heterosexual relationships it is usually the woman that is penetrated by the man and this act of penetration has been imprinted in our masculine minds throughout history. The necessity to do so is even engrained in our language “breaking ones virginity”.

I created this cycle as a representation of how closely connected narcissism and empathy is. Most theories around the subject focus on empathy and narcissism being at two opposing ends of a spectrum, but this theory resonates more for the clients that I have worked with and my own experience with empathy.

I can honestly say that this is one of the most difficult topics to see and hear when I work with women. The amount of times I’ve been told “he doesn’t see me”, my heart sinks because I am fully aware that when a person gets to this point there is usually an affair looming.

One of the most common questions that I get asked by my clients is “how do I not fall back into old patterns of behaviour when I can see so clearly that I’m going to sabotage myself again”.

One of the basics in what I teach is creating a relational foundation. What this includes is 7 core areas that form the foundation to which most relationships should be governed by. These are areas that we all have the capacity and ability to instil in our relationships but often through naivety and complacency we fail to ensure that they become central to the relationship.

When we use clinical tools to assess our mental state with the aim of diagnosis, we turn to a checklist of information and identify if we have persistent patterns of thinking, behaving and feeling. From this we can gather how to box the individual with a better “clinical” perspective and treat them accordingly.

Forgiveness is one of those words that we’d all like to connect with and be able to see through, but when we find ourselves in a heightened state of pain and anger it becomes near impossible to forgive. We find justification in the phrase, “I’ll forgive but I won’t forget”. Even in this justification alone shows the ego is ruling you and not allowing you to move past the depths of pain.

I’d like you to imagine standing in front of a crowd of people. Stripped of everything except your name. You, in your entirety standing there having everything stripped away from you. All the years invested in education, all the years invested in trying to “make it”. Everything stripped away from you and all you are left with is the physical body and mind standing there.

A topic that comes up time and again is the subject of what does a man speak about when he meets new people or women. This brings up a number of factors that need to be taken into consideration.

1. Confidence

2. Commanding attention

3. Mastering your vocal ability

4. The connection between language and thinking

5. Your presence in another’s presence

6. What interests you

7. Can you take interest in another

8. General knowledge

9. Accepting and acknowledging when you don’t know

10. What is the overall purpose of being-with-another human being.