Discover effective strategies to address and improve sexual intimacy issues in your relationship. Explore the underlying causes, practical solutions, and the significance of open communication and mutual understanding between partners.

Delve into the complex landscape of modern women in traditional relationships, shedding light on the evolving dynamics between partners. Discover how embracing conscious self-care and individual growth can strengthen the foundation of traditional relationships, fostering a space for collaboration, mutual support, and lasting love. Explore the challenges and triumphs of navigating this transformative journey together

The you that you think you are, is really not the you who you really are. Each person must decide that for themselves who this "you" really is. Wrongness is not a bad thing, it is all part of the process of being human and growing through experience. If we didn’t encounter wrongness we wouldn’t be able to expand and lean towards who we really are and who we are becoming.

One of the most transformative aspects of any relationship is the ability to nurture and respect each other's freedom. This concept goes beyond mere physical independence; it delves into emotional, psychological, and relational realms. In a healthy partnership, both individuals should feel free to express themselves, pursue their interests, and grow both individually and together.

However, achieving this balance is not without its challenges. Often, relationships can unintentionally drift into co-dependency, where partners' individual identities and freedoms become blurred. This is particularly evident when one or both partners struggle to find a voice in the relationship, leading to a dynamic where being seen and heard becomes a battle rather than a mutual understanding.

The journey towards facilitating your partner's freedom begins with a conscious effort to understand and evolve your relational style. It's about moving away from ego-driven conflicts and embracing a mature, thoughtful approach to your partnership. This process involves recognising and honouring each other's needs, desires, and boundaries.

In fostering this environment of mutual respect and freedom, you lay the foundation for a relationship that is not only fulfilling but also conducive to personal growth and healing. As you navigate through the complexities of your relationship, remember that each step taken towards understanding and respecting each other's freedom is a step towards a deeper, more meaningful connection.

This article is focused on providing you key points in understanding how to navigate your relationship. The intention is to give you effective information to make your relationship with your partner and yourself 100 times stronger. The title of this article is focused on when we get communication wrong. What this implies is that there is an inevitability that two individuals in a relationship will get some of their communication misunderstood at various points in the relationship. This is very normal, but what is not normal is needing to endure suffering both internally and externally at the hands of miscommunication.

When you go through most psychotherapy based courses you are faced with the obligation of going to a personal and professional development (PPD) group. The purpose of such a group can vary but in essence it is designed with no agenda so that people in the group can begin to face discomfort not only within themselves but also as a result of the other members of the group projecting their anxieties and judgements onto the group.

Communication breakdown is bound to happen when there is complacency within the two people involved in the relationship. We find ourselves at the beginning stages full of desire to want to connect on a deep and emotional level but we fail to remember that maintaining depth in a relationship takes time, presence, patience and a lot of love.

What’s been very interesting to see is how the idea and role of boundaries has changed over the years. It feels like the movement through the years has provided a positive view of boundaries because toxic masculinity and the imprint that has left on many seems to be more frequently challenged.

Hindsight is a beautiful thing and if I could have a conversation with my younger self, oh the things that I would tell myself. One of the things I’d cover would be this idea of co-dependency that has been engrained in our societal narrative, but yet we all fall victim to it.

I had the most wonderful conversation on clubhouse yesterday and there was a mix of professionals and people from varied specialities not only the therapy world. What was incredible was that the theme of love was something we all had a personal experience with and it amazed me how we were all different but the central theme of love connected us all.

I can honestly say that this is one of the most difficult topics to see and hear when I work with women. The amount of times I’ve been told “he doesn’t see me”, my heart sinks because I am fully aware that when a person gets to this point there is usually an affair looming.

One of the most common questions that I get asked by my clients is “how do I not fall back into old patterns of behaviour when I can see so clearly that I’m going to sabotage myself again”.

Forgiveness is one of those words that we’d all like to connect with and be able to see through, but when we find ourselves in a heightened state of pain and anger it becomes near impossible to forgive. We find justification in the phrase, “I’ll forgive but I won’t forget”. Even in this justification alone shows the ego is ruling you and not allowing you to move past the depths of pain.

As men we are so deeply connected to the feminine that our lives really are meaningless without the inspiration drawn from the feminine. It is inevitable that at times the feminine challenges us deeply and for many evolving men this is one of the most frightening experiences to encounter. However without this challenge to our evolution we encounter a very different type of development in our masculinity. This I believe to be a massive void because we never truly learn how to love and be present, instead we are drawn to the other elements of our masculinity which does not allow for depth and profound meaning. We need to remember that the feminine is always there to assist us in our growth and in our evolution through our masculinity.

A topic that comes up time and again is the subject of what does a man speak about when he meets new people or women. This brings up a number of factors that need to be taken into consideration.

1. Confidence

2. Commanding attention

3. Mastering your vocal ability

4. The connection between language and thinking

5. Your presence in another’s presence

6. What interests you

7. Can you take interest in another

8. General knowledge

9. Accepting and acknowledging when you don’t know

10. What is the overall purpose of being-with-another human being.

Boundaries are one of the most important factors to consider in any relationship. The communication of which is not always the easiest. The first step in being effective in placing helpful boundaries within a relationship is firstly knowing where YOUR limitations are. This can of course be a process in trying to understand where these boundaries lie, but a simple mechanism I use with my clients is getting them to identify where they feel resistant to certain suggestions, or pressures from the people around them or their partners.

I’ve not always been kind to myself in life, although from the outside my demeanour has always served as a suitable armour for the internal battle I was always in. I always thought that it protected me from getting hurt or prevented me from facing the vulnerability that was bubbling under the surface. But most importantly it protected me from facing myself and allowing me to be as authentic a version of me as possible.

Relationships follows a generally common flow over a lifespan that is dependent on how long we can remain in a state of good communication, tolerance and love. The three factors, good communication, tolerance and love are fundamentals in the maintenance of a healthy and loving relationship.