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Being naked and experiencing a sense of complete liberation is what we’re striving for here! There are two ways of having the body you’re happy with:

1. Do all the necessary steps to change (which will be explained below)

2. Learn to accept what you have and love it like it is your only treasure and not change a thing.

These statements may seem to be easily read but they are two of the most challenging experiences any of us can go through. Living in a society that will not simply accept what we are and who we are makes us second guess our gut feelings and leave us with a feeling of not being good enough.

Erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation are two physiological dysfunctions that affect a large proportion of men all over the world. There are a number of contributing factors that can lead to these problems but the focus here is on the psychological.

It is always advisable to go and see a urologist or your doctor if you feel you are having erection problems as this is usually a red flag for another underlying condition that is being neglected. Once any medical and physiological concerns have been ruled out by a urologist, you can then begin focusing on the psychological aspects that may be hindering you during your lovemaking experiences.

I get a lot of feedback, ironically from women defending men when I am harder on men in view of stepping up and taking ownership of situations. I agree that many men are trying to change and correct the collective of past male atrocities, so it is not all men this is speaking to, but a large majority. In part I am hard on myself because I wish I had been challenged in the past when I should’ve been stepping up. It was in these moments that I needed someone there pushing me to strive and really challenge myself. The ideal would’ve been a man who I could confide in because it wasn’t nurturing I needed, I needed someone to cut through my bullshit and call me out.

Many people don’t make the association that our life energy and sex energy are so interrelated that they both deserve the time to be a priority and focal point in our lives.

We are never taught the importance and significance of our sexuality until we embark on a community of sex positive teachings that awaken a curiosity within us and then begin to explore the various avenues in view of embracing our sex.

I am a man. I am a man who strives to be better every single day but am haunted by my own personal reflection that I have done wrong in the past. Like every man going through their various stages of growth there are moments when we are completely oblivious to why we act in the manner we do and we can analyse these experiences to the point where there is a psychological explanation for every single facet of our behaviour. I do not believe that this is the problem because like every man or woman there are stages of development and growth that we go through and this is essentially a process to become more conscious and aware and steering towards becoming more self-actualised individuals.

I love the beauty of linguistics. The more we master our own language the more able we become in expressing artistically our inner world for the outer world to hear, see and understand. This is a process that takes many years to master and I urge everyone to try enhance their linguistic ability even if solely for the purposes of aiding others in hearing you.

A very interesting question was raised during one of our discussions this past week around how do we know if the amount of masturbation or sex we’re engaging in is indicative of addiction or not.

Each and every single one of us is like a living battery. A battery charged with a certain amount of power to be able to get us through the day and assist us in achieving everything we need to. The thing we fail to remember is that in order to fully charge there needs to be a more conscious balance in how we understand the flow of energy that moves through our body and how we need to cultivate this and assist it not only to flow well but to grow in magnitude.

When you go through most psychotherapy based courses you are faced with the obligation of going to a personal and professional development (PPD) group. The purpose of such a group can vary but in essence it is designed with no agenda so that people in the group can begin to face discomfort not only within themselves but also as a result of the other members of the group projecting their anxieties and judgements onto the group.

Communication breakdown is bound to happen when there is complacency within the two people involved in the relationship. We find ourselves at the beginning stages full of desire to want to connect on a deep and emotional level but we fail to remember that maintaining depth in a relationship takes time, presence, patience and a lot of love.

What’s been very interesting to see is how the idea and role of boundaries has changed over the years. It feels like the movement through the years has provided a positive view of boundaries because toxic masculinity and the imprint that has left on many seems to be more frequently challenged.

“Keep this thought handy when you feel a fit of rage coming on—it isn’t manly to be enraged. Rather, gentleness and civility are more human, and therefore manlier. A real man doesn’t give way to anger and discontent, and such a person has strength, courage, and endurance—unlike the angry and complaining. The nearer a man comes to a calm mind, the closer he is to strength.” —MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 11.18.5b

I had the most wonderful conversation on clubhouse yesterday and there was a mix of professionals and people from varied specialities not only the therapy world. What was incredible was that the theme of love was something we all had a personal experience with and it amazed me how we were all different but the central theme of love connected us all.

In my mind the sexual self-image is one of the most important aspects our life that we need to be able to cultivate and express freely. If we have any blockages related to our free expression of our sexuality, there is the inevitability that there will be some form of emotional, behavioural or psychological issue that can arise as a result.

As men we are so deeply connected to the feminine that our lives really are meaningless without the inspiration drawn from the feminine. It is inevitable that at times the feminine challenges us deeply and for many evolving men this is one of the most frightening experiences to encounter. However without this challenge to our evolution we encounter a very different type of development in our masculinity. This I believe to be a massive void because we never truly learn how to love and be present, instead we are drawn to the other elements of our masculinity which does not allow for depth and profound meaning. We need to remember that the feminine is always there to assist us in our growth and in our evolution through our masculinity.

I’d like you to imagine standing in front of a crowd of people. Stripped of everything except your name. You, in your entirety standing there having everything stripped away from you. All the years invested in education, all the years invested in trying to “make it”. Everything stripped away from you and all you are left with is the physical body and mind standing there.

A topic that comes up time and again is the subject of what does a man speak about when he meets new people or women. This brings up a number of factors that need to be taken into consideration.

1. Confidence

2. Commanding attention

3. Mastering your vocal ability

4. The connection between language and thinking

5. Your presence in another’s presence

6. What interests you

7. Can you take interest in another

8. General knowledge

9. Accepting and acknowledging when you don’t know

10. What is the overall purpose of being-with-another human being.

Purity is the first task of a triad necessary for men to master. The key aspect to understand purity is in its definition.

The dictionary definition of purity is freedom from adulteration or contamination, or freedom from immorality.

Realistically it does not matter what day and age we are born into or come from, or from which society we have grown up in – sexuality is undeniably present in all of us at every moment behind the veil or without the veil. The problem here is that we are never taught to understand or connect with our sexuality from a young age. We automatically connect purity with its dictionary definition due to the sexual undertones, and how society has grown further to connect the term with this understanding. In my mind, I see your “Mother Theresa Prototype” as the ideal and would be an image of purity in human form to strive for.

Boundaries are one of the most important factors to consider in any relationship. The communication of which is not always the easiest. The first step in being effective in placing helpful boundaries within a relationship is firstly knowing where YOUR limitations are. This can of course be a process in trying to understand where these boundaries lie, but a simple mechanism I use with my clients is getting them to identify where they feel resistant to certain suggestions, or pressures from the people around them or their partners.