Do Sexual Attachment Styles Actually Exist?

In current psychological literature, there are no explicit theories around sexual attachment styles. There is inquiry into how attachment styles affect one’s sexuality but nothing to say what your sexual attachment style actually is.

That being said, we’re going to approach attachment styles from a sexual standpoint and help you make sense of your attachment style from a sexual point of view because sex is so important to us!

Sex is assumed to be a natural process. But for most people during their lifespan of engaging sexually, sex has come with its pleasures and pains. It is not always a pleasurable experience because for one we have never had real instruction on how to use our bodies and then we complicate things by making it more of a mind game than a bodily one. What then happens is that our body begins to store all these micro-traumas without us realizing the actual impact that it has had on us mentally and physically.

So, for the purposes of this post I will be making reference to:

1. Sexually Secure Attachment

2. Sexually Dismissive or Sexually Avoidant Attachment

3. Sexually Anxious or Sexually Preoccupied Attachment

4. Sexually Disorganised or Sexually Fearful/Avoidant Attachment

In order to develop better skills to navigate our sexuality we first need to understand what a Sexually Secure Attachment blueprint looks like. From here we have a reference point to address all the other Sexual Attachment Styles.